Why do we choose to suffer?
An even more interesting question to ask, would be, "Why do so many successful people suffer?" If you want to stop suffering, you need to decide there is no longer room for it in your life. Make the decision that life is too short to suffer, and commit to only living in a beautiful state. Did you know when you negotiate with yourself, that you are actually stripping yourself of power?
Let's have a quick chat about your brain. Your brain, as beautiful as it is... is not designed to make you happy. It is designed to protect you, to keep you safe, it is designed as a form of survival. Because the brain wants to live in a state of survival mode, it is constantly looking for what is *wrong*. This is your Fight or Flight survival software... and it's time to go in like an expert hacker and hijack the crap out of your brain. Last time I checked... you weren't being chased by Lions on the regular, so it's time to upgrade your software!
We at least need to be able to notice when our survival software is running, so that we can step out of it when it's necessary. Something else to note, since we aren't being chased by lions, and tigers, and bears (oh my!), the new normal "dangers" that we are running from are thoughts... yes thoughts! Be honest, have you ever thought any of these?
What are they thinking of me?
Do I have enough money?
Am I doing well by my children?
What's wrong with me?
Am I enough?
It's a relief to know that these thoughts aren't yours alone... but knowing this isn't going to shift anything. More important to know and understand... What are your favorite flavors of suffering? Anger? Worry? Frustration? Resentment? Overwhelm? Stress? Loneliness? Depression? Sadness? If you can identify your favorite flavors of suffering you are able to better hijack your own software. It's important to realize that suffering begets more suffering (just as happiness begets more happiness!) and our goal is to stop the suffering as it arises.
What is *wrong* is always available, and so is what is right. It is all about what we choose to focus on. Take control of your mind so that your spirit, soul, and emotions can soar! ⠀